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The Lie That You Can Always Be Better or More

Last Monday night I set my alarm for 5:30am to get up for a 6am workout class. My plan was to go to that class, then come home, shower, get ready, go to to work and then go to an afternoon meeting. This was my Tuesday plan. What happened instead? Well, Monday night I couldn’t sleep because I…

Two Things Daughters Need to Hear from their Fathers

A few weeks ago I was assigned to write a Father’s Day article about what daughters need to hear from their fathers as teens. Immediately I remembered this one time I did a Q&A session at a youth leaders’ conference. I and another preacher’s daughter answered a few questions about what it was like to grow…

Feeling Bent. Feeling Broken.

Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.  – Charles Dickens I spent about 26 years of my life feeling pretty good about myself. I was always a good student. I didn’t…

If I Were a Spiritual Guide on The Bachelorette (Episode 3)

I’ve been a pretty faithful viewer of ABC’s The Bachelor and The Bachelorette since 2009, Jillian’s season. Some of you who have been reading this blog for a while might even remember The Bachelor Audition of 2011. Something I more often than not wish I could forget. I watch The Bachelor because I live in America, and…

When Church Is the Cause of Your Hustle

Last week I was feeling irritable. I was busy. I had a lot of things to do and places to be and I didn’t like it. My soul wanted to rest. You know that feeling? When you realize you crammed a few too many things onto your calendar for the week and you feel the pull? The pull between…

Six Tips for Navigating Your Twenties (+ a Giveaway!)

Winners of the All Groan Up giveaway are… Leslie Wood Beverly Vance Missy Mutchnik Send me your address via my contact page or PM. CONGRATULATIONS! A couple of weeks ago, I blogged about an article I had read that inspired me to embrace this unknown season of life I’m in, rather than run from it. I tweeted…

When Life Is Shaky, Weird and Hard, But Good at the Same Time

    I’ve moved a lot since college. Almost every year in fact. From apartment to house to condo to another house. It’s the typical transient life of the twenty-something, I suppose. Though I leave a lot behind when I move—clothes, old picture frames, dishes I don’t want anymore—one thing I’ve carried with…

I'm Strong, But I'm Needy, Desperate and Fearful, Too

  I have an irrational fear of being in weddings. I fainted during a ceremony a few years ago when I was a bridesmaid and ever since, the thought of being a bridesmaid brings back that blurry vision, wobbly knee feeling. It’s irrational, I know. The reason I fainted in the wedding a few years back was because the…

The Problem with “White Lies”

White lies are lies that are harmless and trivial. At least, that’s what the dictionary says. But I disagree with the dictionary, if that’s allowed. I tell white lies often. So often in fact that I don’t always realize I’m doing it. I (white) lie when it’s convenient, comforting, and easier than being honest. I…

Deciphering God’s Will (+ a Book Giveaway)

THE WINNERS ARE: Mikki Jacobs Pedre Decupe Alayne Kim k Congratulations! You will each receive one copy of The Grand Paradox. Please send me your mailing address using the contact page.  In my former life as a book publicist, I got to know a man named Ken Wytsma. Ken is an author, a pastor, a husband, a father or four…